The Accidental Expert

Like everyone, I've worked hard to become an expert in my line of work. In addition, even tho I no longer use those skills in a medical environment, I used to, so I'm usually the "go to person" for health related matters in my office. Ditto for dog-training related questions in the rescue group. In all of these cases, these are things that I've studied and/or gained experience and in various other ways worked to become more knowledgeable about them.

Unfortunately, it seems I've gotten that distinction in another way, as well, and I'd give it up in a heartbeat....I've become the expert in cancer support.

We've recently learned that another friend was diagnosed with non-Hodgkins lymphoma, the same type of cancer my SO has been dealing with. Luckily, this friend's form is the indolent/non-aggressive form, as opposed to the highly aggressive version my SO had, but the treatment is the same, right down to the same chemo drugs, same immunotherapy, same schedule, etc. Given that, we've been providing support and information to him and his family since we've been there, done that and might have some insights that would prove helpful. I also find myself being the "go to person" for our mutual friends who want to help, but don't know how to do so.

Obviously, I'm happy to do whatever I can to make such a tough time a little easier. However, I'm not sure I like being the expert in this. I never expected to have to do this once, much less twice. I'd happily resign from the position if only I could.